Archives for November 2012

Mayim Bialik and Husband to Divorce

Mayim Bialik, who stars in “The Big Bang Theory,” and her husband are divorcing, reports TMZ. Bialik cites cites “irreconcilable differences” in her nine year marriage to Michael Stone. The couple has two children.

Mayim Bialik arriving at the “Something Borrowed” World Premiere

A statement on her website reads, “The hands-on style of parenting we practice played no role in the changes that led to this decision… relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose.”

Bialik is referring to the criticism she and Stone once received for their parenting techniques, including allowing their children to sleep in the same bed with them.

Many people have the habit of guessing, or assuming, they know why someone else is divorcing or what went wrong in their relationship. Celebrities are in the media spotlight and are used to the assumptions, rumors or lies… but don’t make the mistake of playing that game with your friends/family. Bialik is right… relationships are complicated no matter if you’re a celebrity or not.


Halloween as a Divorced Celeb

Celebrities find great publicity in the wake of Halloween.  Costumes become more than just fun dress-up, and can actually be quite the jab at ex-lovers.  Most celebrities live in the public eye, hence why break-ups and separations are tougher than normal.  Having to see your former flame wrapped in another’s arms is haunting, especially when the relationship you had isn’t exactly water under the bridge.

Take, for example, the engagement of Avril Lavigne and Chad Kroeger of Nickelback.  This maturing relationship caught the eye of Lavigne’s ex-husband, Deryck Whibley of Sum 41.  Whibley probably has not moved on from Lavigne, so much so that he and his current girlfriend, Ari Cooper, dressed up as Lavigne and Kroeger for Halloween.  This sighting could very easily become a start of a celebrity feud, but Kroeger put out the former flame when he invited him to a couples bowling match via Twitter.

Another talked about costume of an ex-lover goes to Kayte Grammer.  She gets involved with her husband, Kelsey Grammer’s, previous relationship with “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” star Camille Grammer.  On top of Kelsey’s negativity toward Camille, Kayte created even more tension as she used Camille as her inspiration for this year’s Halloween costume.

Whether the motive is to attack an ex or simply make fun of him/her, there are alternative ways to cope with the anger or depression of an ending relationship. Divorce and separation can cause many mixed emotions.  It is inevitable to feel some sort of hostility during a divorce, but the solution is not to harass a previous partner.  Instead, mentally disengage yourself with the problem at hand and control what you can.  Doing that allows you to imagine different solutions and engage non-aggressively.  This ultimately creates a greater sense of self as well as protects you from embarrassing yourself in an easily avoidable situation.